Hard to believe our baby girl is one month old! This month has been filled with lots of love, changes, adjustments, fun, smiles, doctors visits, tears, crying, just to name a few items of what we have been going through :)
Weight: 8 lb 1 oz (15th percentile)
Length: 22" (85th percentile)
Ava you also are known as our baby girl, pretty girl, princess, and baby Ava.
Some of your favorite things:
Mommy: Mommy had only held a newborn baby maybe a couple times in her life. It is really true what they say that it will come natural when it is your own baby. I have never felt nervous holding you, like I did when I held other babies. Mommy loves spending time with you and the little faces you make are so precious now. You are starting to show more facial expressions and are opening your eyes now for longer periods of time. Mommy can't wait to see more and more of your personality and for all the fun you are going to be. Mommy loves to read your bible story book to you and to sing to you. I usually sing "Ava Michelle, Ava Michelle, pretty little girl named Ava Michelle" and "Ava, Ava, Mommy loves you, Mommy loves you".
In Mommy's arms
Daddy: After we got back from the hospital Daddy had to go back to work but really wanted to be home with you. Daddy's schedule includes school, landscaping, and working at the firehouse which some days makes it where he is not home until dinner time or he is not home at all. Daddy makes sure he always kisses you before he leaves and loves holding and feeding you when he gets home. Your daddy thinks the world of you and it is really precious to see him interacting with you. You and your daddy are going to have so much fun when you get a little bit older. He is going to have you playing everything and you two will be so cute together. He will probably also pick and poke at you, but don't worry he does the same thing to mommy so we will make sure we get him back together :).
You love to cuddle with daddy
Bentley: Your big brother Bentley is adjusting to having to share his spotlight with you :) He is really great with you and is concerned when you are crying but is also jealous and purposely gets in trouble just so that he get attention for that moment. I know that when you get older you will love him and give him big hugs
Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins: You have so many great people in your life that love you soo much baby girl! They have been bringing mommy and daddy dinner, watching you so mommy can sleep during the day, buying you clothes and coming over to spend time with you. You were born into one great family and I can't wait for you to get to know all of them!
The Swing: You will swing two-three times a day after we feed you. You usually don't look very comfortable when we go to check on you but you don't cry so I guess it does not bother you :)
Walks: We have gone for a few walks and you seem to like them. You are usually asleep for most of the walk so I guess maybe this next month I will know if you really enjoy them since you will probably be up more :)
Other events that happened during your first month of life:
*Breastfeeding/Formula: A couple days after we got home from the hospital we went to a lactation doctor at mommy's work {Children's Hospital} because mommy heard about it at work and your pediatrician really liked that I was going to see one. My milk had not come in and I wanted to know what to do. The doctor was so helpful and super nice and told me to come back the next week and she will do a weight check to see how much you were getting from breast feeding. I came back the next week but you were too sleepy and did not do a good feeding so I came back the next week. When she did the weight check she told me that you were not getting enough from me (my milk did not come in all the way because of the complications I had after you were born) and that you were going to have to be on formula but I could still pump. It does not bother me that you are on formula since lots of babies are and are totally fine :) I just want you to get bigger and stronger. Mommy is pumping still but I got an awful breast infection called mastitis. I felt absolutely awful and Grandma Jackson came over to take care of you for a couple of days since Daddy was working at the firehouse.
*EKG and ECHO: Your pediatrician also wanted us to do weight checks with you every week to make sure you were gaining weight throughout the month. Every week when we went to your doctors office you were gaining weight but then when we went to the lactation doctor you would lose weight. They were two different scales but this had mommy concerned because she did not want you to keep losing weight. Since we were having this issue your doctor had us come in on 5/7/13 for her to make sure you look okay and that everything seemed fine. When she was listening to your chest she heard an "innocent murmur" which lots of babies get but because of your weight loss/gain our doctor wanted us to take you to Children's Hospital so a Cardiologist could make sure that was what it was. Daddy left work so he could join us and they did an EKG and ECHO on you. It was really hard for Mommy to see you on that big bed with those wires on you and you were so still and quiet for the ECHO. It made mommy thankful that you do not have anything seriously wrong with you and that we will keep praying for God to make you strong and healthy. The Cardiologist said that it was an innocent murmur and that we should not be concerned.
*You stretch (usually putting your arms above your head like your raising the roof) and make all kinds of squeaks when your getting ready to get up.
*Your daddy thinks its funny when you are getting ready to take a bottle how you shake your head back and forth because you are ready to eat and want it right away.
*You are most fussy at night between the feedings at 9:00ish and midnight. It is really hard for us when you cry and their is nothing we can do to help you.
*You eat every 3 hours and are taking 3 ml now. You sleep mostly during the day and are up for half the night.
*You are most alert after you eat and make some of the cutest/weirdest faces during that time. It is usually because you are getting ready to poop or fart :) You make some of your dirtiest diapers at night.
*Since you are mostly on formula your little breathe when we burp you is stinky but daddy would say that mommy's breathe also stinks sometimes so it is nothing personal itty bitty :)
*You have gotten a few baths and are not really a fan but I think you eventually will be.
*Daddy says words mommy has never really him say before like cute, pretty, adorable, etc. They are usually always in reference to you or clothes that you get :)
What Mommy and Daddy are learning about being parents:
How much to feed you: Since you can't tell us when it's too much we just go by you grabbing your face if your still hungry and are learning how much you want. We also found out that when we give you too much you will spit it up. You did a really big spit up in your swing and then also one night when mommy was home alone.
Not to listen to people who make us feel like bad parents: There have only been two people who have made us feel like we were really bad parents. One nurse when we were in the hospital and I just had the DNC and my milk was still not in and she made us feel bad we were giving you formula. Another nurse was at the cardiologist office and she gave us some formula to give you since it was time for you to eat but you had already had a little milk in the waiting room. You took it down really quickly and she literally said "she is starving. do you guys feed her?" We do not act like we know everything and are very open to everyones suggestions but when someone make us feel like we're bad parents or that we're doing something really wrong to you that's when we get really frustrated.
How to balance schedules: Kyle had to go back to work right after we got back from the Hospital. We have been trying to figure out how we balance being with Ava, spending time with each other, and also still getting to do a couple of the things we still did before she was born, like shopping for me and golfing for Kyle. We have a great family who is always willing to come over and help but it really nice when Kyle is home because it just helps us continue to try to be on the same page of how we are going to parent Ava. I know when I go back to work we will have to figure it out again and will continue to find a balance as Ava gets older. My hope is that we can have patience with each other as our schedule changes and be able to see each others perspective.
Takes a tole on your body: I knew that having a baby I would be tired but I feel my body has been through so much. After all I went through at the hospital coming home I was still swollen for a couple weeks, I had bruising, my emotions were all over, my appetite is not the same (food that was usually good is not as good), and then I got the breast infection. I feel like every part of my body had been through something lol When I go back to work I am hoping to workout out again (not to lose weight since I'm back to my pre-baby weight) so I can get my strength back.